Jaideep Patel makes a case against office romance and why it is actually more damaging than you may think.
Office romance creeps into working life more often than it should. When it does, it usually leaves behind a trail of tears ,heartbreak and resignation letters.
Here are three reasons why office romance is a cruel career killer:
It creates a toxic work environment
If you’ve witnessed people getting into romantic relationships at work, you may remember how terribly uncomfortable it made you feel. What makes it worse is that it is such a complicated matter – one that can’t be resolved with a friendly chat. You just can’t go up to a person and tell them to fall out of love! In most cases, co-workers will opt to not get involved in personal matters. This brings me to my next point…
It creates confusion amongst colleagues
Do personal relationships remain personal if they take place at work? Or do they become everyone’s business? Having a clear favourite at work makes it harder for you to see your colleagues for what they really are: equal to everyone else at work. If your lover is a superior, you can be suspected of using your relationship as a tool to get ahead of the rest. And once you are accused of favouritism, it is near impossible to clear your name.
It erases that precious line between your personal life and your professional life
I believe that there needs to be a clear separation between work and play. Sure, work can be fun, but there is a line. And that line needs to be respected at all times. If you are trying to make a personal relationship work (at work, of all places) then your productivity will inevitably suffer. The distractions will take away your focus, and your personal affairs will start to create a divide between you and the rest of your teammates. It’s all uphill from then on.